The Results

So I received the speed dating results. And straight off i can say I got 3 Ys! Woohooo some people like me in 3 mins. lol. What's interesting was who they were from, and the other results compared to what I put.

So here are their results compared to mine.

	On my Scorecard	On their Scorecard
No 1	F	F
No 2	N	F
No 3	Y	N
No 4	F	F
No 5	N	N
No 6	F	F
No 7	F	Y
No 8	N	0
No 9	F	Y
No 10		0
No 11	F	F
No 12	F	F
No 13	F	0
No 14	F	0
No 15	F	Y
No 16	F	F
No 17	Y	F

No matches with Ys unfortunately. Still very interesting, if you compare to what my initial thoughts on each girl were. So the one that stands out is the girl I put Y and she gave me a N. First off, WTF?! LOL! How could we both think so differently. It's just amazing how different opinions on encounters with other people can be. I thought we had gotten along, she laughed, I laughed, I thought there was a connection of some sort. I obviously read the signs wrong. lol.

I should mention something that happened with girl 3, is that she did interrupt my chat with Girl 4 to confirm my number, as she had filled her form apparently incorrectly. To understand, the guys are moving to each girl in chronological order the girls are seeing guys in reverse number order. So at the start I suppose it can be quite confusing, it's already fast paced as it is.

Plus knowing the guy in front of me was pretty much hated by all the girls. So she may have put the wrong thing for me, however.....it could also mean she wanted to make sure she put a N for me. So take it how you want. I'm taking the N as a confirmation, as for me, it's just quite funny how much different an encounter two people can see it. There's a chance I may see her again, even though I don't have her contact details. It depends on whether my friend invites her out to our nights out. If so, I won't confront her directly, unless she mentions it.

I can easily joke about it, diffuse any awkwardness. So if I read it all wrong, I'm thinking it maybe because she is just not looking for my type of person. Maybe due to my looks, type of personality or what have you, which is absolutely fine. 

I honestly didn't think girl 7 would put a Y for me, especially as I mentioned I didn't listen to half of what she said at one point. lol. Still I suppose I did feel we got along, with me being my usual jokey self. 

I knew Girl 9 would give me a Y, as for one thing we did spend the most time together, and she was very easy to chat to.

I'm also a bit surprised by Girl 15, the doctor! Blimey! It really does show the contrasts with what I had with Girl 3. I didn't think anything of it, she must of fancied me or something, I only made a few jokes. Sometimes you just shouldn't try too hard I guess, which I think is maybe what I did with girl 3.

And finally Girl 17, who I gave a Y  and she gave me a F. which I don't know what it means. lol. Again may she didn't see me in that light. 

So I do have the contact details for girls that were matched with a least a Y & F. And now I'm undecided as to who to contact. I have resorted to blog about it to give myself some perspective. (Incidentally we were allowed to leave early for work today, it's Easter weekend!!)

In theory I should contact girl 17, but I'm not sure. Should I contact all the ones with Y&F's together, I'm not the type to be a player. So I'm a bit confused as to what to do. The favourites I have to say are girl 7 and 17. Sigh.... I will make a step at some point, which choice I make could be life defining.

Speed Dating

I've come back from Hong Kong, and have been quite busy. To quickly get to the main point, a quick update on things.

So in Hong Kong I collected my $6k, opened up a new bank account, renewed my 3 year mandatory visit and some much needed time off. My last real holiday was to Venice with my ex a good two years ago, so it's felt good to not work. But now back in the UK in this crazy cold weather. Can't believe there's snow in March, and from the sounds of it the freezing temperatures will continue into April. Boooo......

So what the bulk of this entry will be about is that I went Speed Dating on Monday. Normally I would shun these opportunities, because I never really liked the way you are in a forced environment to meet other single people. But the concept felt interesting enough to try it out. It's like the trendy thing to do, and I was curious to see how it works.

I did need a push though, but all that was required was for my housemate to ask me to go. I didn't really need any more persausion. Who incidentally has settled into my spare room now. The cats are amazing and soo cute, and funny. I have fallen in love with them. However they seemed scared of me after I came back from HK so hopefully they'll warm to me again. I will most likely blog about them at some point.

So lets get into the nitty gritty of what happened. Overall speed dating was quite exhausting, and difficult to remember exactly what I talked about during the 3 mins with each girl. But I will try and summarise everything from the top of my head.

I believe some speed dating events differ slightly depending on the organisers. So you spend 3 mins with each girl, the organiser will blow a whistle to signal the end of the 3 mins and the guys have to move to the next girl. You're given a form to fill in as you go, and you write N for No, F for Friend, Y for Yes you are interested, and a section for your own comments if need be. You then have to give the form back at the end.

I was given a tip to take a picture of the form before giving it back. So that's what I did, because how else are you going to remember names. The organisers will send an email out to confirm who you've matched with.

The setup was not how I anticipated though. As I've seen in movies and tv shows that there are desks laid out one by one as you take turns. This was located in a bar, with booths seperating the people, however the booths were shared between 2 girls, so you can see the other couple talking as well.

So here is my run down on what I thought of the girls. It was a bit of a blur for some of them , but i'll do my best.

Girl 1: NHS, older. No one else asked about age, she was the only girl to and when I told her how old I was she said she felt old. So obviously she's older than me, with me being 29. F

Girl 2: In finance, for some reason felt awkward. I think becuase it was the start and everyone was trying to get in the swing of things. I think she mentioned she has been before.  N

Girl 3: Bubbly, seemed fun 3 mins went quick, which was a good sign. She had this thing about putting smiley faces for her own form. Then got started talking about each other before it was all over. So would like to see if i can continue our rapport. Funnily enough because she sat next to my friend and they got along. I may see her again regardless of what we picked, in future night outs. Y

Girl 4: As mentioned the next girl I already knew, so had a quick catchup and made a few jokes. It was really only my second time I've met her. So I am sort of trying to get to know her still. She's easy to talk to, but I don't know, there's something missing I feel. I know I'll see her again, so I can play it relatively cool with her. She seems like she wants to talk to me, but I'm not giving anything away. She is attractive, but I there's just no spark. F

Girl 5: Next girl is from China, and was difficult to talk to. I didn't find her that attractive, and with Language issue, I'm afraid I put a N for her.

Girl 6: Tall PR girl, fun. She ended up talking alot about her PR job. so it was quite hard to guage exactly what she is like. I only gave her an F, as I was a bit unsure and she is quite tall.

Girl 7: I had a mini chat with her before the event started, so we sorta carried on where we left off, easy to talk to. I'm ashamed to admit that I drifted off when she was talking about her position in IT, because I can see the next guy in front struggling with the girl in front. So hopefully she didn't see that I wasn't paying attention, but I think I recovered. :p F

Girl 8: So yes after seeing what happeend, I was a bit weary of this girl. And straight off I can see why. She was mainland china, and although her english was good, her answers were short, and was difficult to make way for a good conversation, I did try tho. In hindsight now, i think I may have been overly harsh. I maybe should have put an F. As i think she was trying to engage with me. Also the guy in front of me isn't the best candidate in the world, which did me some favours I suppose. So an N

Girl 9: Essex girl, seemed fun, easy to chat to. We got a bit lucky, because she was the last one before the break, so I sat to chat abit longer. As well as going back to her after the break which unfortunately caused me to skip the next one. I gave her an F, I'm thinking she may have put Y for me, but unfortunately I do not find her attractive, I know I'm horrible and shallow....

Girl 10: Skipped accidently. went to see her and a quick chat in the end, but she looked tired and disappointed it seemed. Would have been a N if I could have filled in the form.

Girl 11: Was warned by my friend about this next girl that she may be tired, and won't engage with you. She did look it but it seemed like she tried. And we did chat F

Girl 12: My Housemate, just chatted about how our nights were going. This was when I knew the guy in front was a bit sleazy and the other guys were not so great either. Which gives me a bit of confidence, but also felt abit bad for the girls. F

Girl 13: Singapore girl, conversation wasn't really flowing, she looked tired too. We tried to engage again and just chatted generally. I'm abit unsure how it went, but she was quite pretty. Rather than a typical Y just because she is prety, I gave her an F cos I don't think there was a click.

Girl 14: Hong kong girl, didn't look interested, or very enthusiastic. I remember not filling the form in for quite some time and as I filled it near the end I wasn't sure so I gave her an F, which is safe, but in hindsight probably should have been a N.

Girl 15: Doctor, talked about Kent, chat was flowing I think. She was definitely engaging, when it was me that was struggling. I got to the point where I ran out of things to say differently and I didn't want to to repeat myself, so I may not have come across very well with her. She definitely seemed older. Gave her an F

Girl 16: The extra sheet lady. Seemed fun and chatty, but also she was old, unfortunately the least attractive person there. I reckon she may have gotten a few Ns, but I felt like being nice and gave her an F, because honestly she seemed like she has a good personality.

Girl 17: The artist, she was a lot of fun, attractive, chatty and we seemed to get along. Again we got lucky because it was the final round so we talked a bit more even though it was over. I actually regret leaving her to chat to the girl I skipped. And she was the one I didn't write a name for on my sheet, before I took the photo, so I've forgotten her name.... plus I'm now thinking she may be too young as she is still studying... I still gave her a Y

So overall two Ys and 3 Ns officially. The rest Fs.

In hindsight, maybe I should have given some more Ns, as well as turning some of the Ns into Fs. It was hard to make quick snap decision sometimes... maybe I'm too nice.. I'm assuming most people just put down Fs anyway. It's a bit of a scapegoat, but it's the safest choice. 3 mins is not long to make a good judgement, but I suppose that part of the fun I guess.

I feel a bit confident knowing the calibre of the guys that were with me were not so great. I mean I know I'm not unattractive, I can make a joke, I can talk to girls with out blowing my balls. So I feel like I'm in good stead. I do feel bad for some of the girls, hopefully they met someone they felt had a connection.

So that was my experience. I mean it was a good experience, and I did have fun, but there's something demoralising out of it as well. You need to have a bit of a thick skin and able to take rejection well, because you will be rejected no doubt about it. You will not get along with everyone, but I suppose if you find someone it's all worth.

So we shall see once I get the feedback, and if it doesn't work out with any of them, then it's no problem. I probably wouldn't do it again in a hurry, I'll give it half a year probably.

Eternal Sunshine

Lack of entries in this blog again due to being busy. I did actually start many blog entries, but I've not finished them and by the time I get back to it, I feel like it's too old and I've progressed to something else.

One thing to announce is I've moved in. Horray! I've moved in for about a month now and i love it. It's not the largest of houses, but it's mine, mine, mine, mine! :D There are endless amounts of tasks to do on the place, which suits me fine. Painting is mostly done, still a few furniture to get. Just last weekend I built my tv stand, and I'm very proud of it, even though I didn't have the screw driver to fix a particular connection. So I'm quite settled in now, and will try to get someone in to rent the spare room. Although I like being on my own and having the whole place to myself, it's better to have the extra income.

I have Fibre Optic broadband! Hello 69mb! Full 1080p HD movies are downloaded in half an hour now. Love it! Therefore I've been testing out my new LED HDTV, just yesterday I watch Eternal Sunshine of the Spotless Mind, which is what the bulk of this entry will be about. Now I've not watched that film for quite some time, and I couldn't really relate to the protagonists the first time round. Rewatching it now it struck more of a chord.

I won't explain the whole movie, but it's about erasing your memory. Specifically memories of an ex. Imagine having the option to be able to erase parts of your memory. It's an interesting concept and allows to provide a poignant film. It was artistically shot, had a fantastic script and very well acted by Jim Carrey, Kate Winslet and the rest of the supporting cast. The main journey of the film was going through Joel's (Jim carrey) process in erasing all his memories of his ex Clementine (Kate Winslet).

He lives the memories one last time before they get erased, and we get to experience and learn how their relationship ended to how it started. We understand why they didn't work out, but we got glimpses of how it worked and why they loved each other. As he lives through each memory again, he realises it was the wrong decision in erasing his memories of her, because he still likes some of them, he wants to cherish the positive moments. So he tries to fight the process of his memories being erased.

The way they showed the memories of couple's arguing, experiencing their good and bad moments was very realistic and relate-able now.  Joel is a boring, nice, sensible type, Kate was the fun, impulsive, out going type. In a sense they are polar opposites yet seemingly fit very well with each other. So as I watched the film, all the good and bad moments in my past relationships came back. What made it more strange to me was how Clementine's character was similar to my last ex. They both have self esteem issues, maybe signs of a bipolar or a personality disorder. Either case it can be a difficult relationship to work with, which is what happened with both in their story and in mine.

****Spoilers**** for the next few paragraphs you have been warned

After both their memories have been erased they managed to meet each other again, and they rekindled their relationship again, knowing that it failed in the past. That's where the film ends. Whether it fails again or not we do not know. It's left to our interpretation. I like to think that they learnt from their mistakes and have a better relationship this time round, but something tells me they revisit all the bad stuff again and will continue the cycle of erasing their memories of each other and finding each other again. So in a sense they will be with each other forever but in a constant cycle. They do get to experience the best parts of the relationship which is discovering each other for the first time every time.

****Ends Spoilers****

It was a positive film for me though, because there is hope at the end. The message of cherishing your most positive memories of each other. Keeping your memories whether good or bad is what determines how you are today. Realise where you did right or gone wrong, is character building.

In terms of me in finding a new relationship. I am ready to move on, I just need to get myself out there. I went out for the first time in ages on Friday and met a girl, but even though she has a boyfriend, I teased and flirted, and got a bit of feedback. Obviously I didn't pursue, but it was nice to experience and get the attention I needed to know I still have value. The problem is getting myself out there, I'm in no rush.

Remember Remember....

I will remember you for the good times we had.
I will remember our first meeting, the only female at a stag do.
I will remember our first dance at the wedding, when we were the only ones dancing completely different to the rest of the people.
I will remember our first kiss
I will remember how I sung to you over the phone, in a toilet, when I was in cornwall on a trip with my friends.
I will remember your constant snotty nose
I will remember our first encounter of your driving that scared me and my friends.
I will remember when we climbed the giant log ladders together, we were very proud of ourselves.
I will remember our trip to Venice when we spend a day to visit Murano and Burano Islands. We stayed to watch the beautiful sunset.
I will remember grossing you out, generally testing your levels of OCD.
I will remember your love for food, and introducing you to Vietnamese.
I will remember your smile, and the way you never liked showing your teeth in photos, because you were embarassed.
I will remember our cuddles in front of the TV, in bed, holding of hands.
I will remember the joy you had in picking on me.
I will remember our shopping trips, and my joke of swatting people out of the way with my newspaper
I will remember your temper tantrums, and although it was difficult then, they're endearing now
I will remember your random hugs
I will remember your face at it's most happiest moments always
Regardless of what has happened between us, I have moved on now, but I will always remember you in the most positive light

Will

Smashing Weekend

I've got a stiff neck today... It's bloody annoying. I was tempted to take today off work, but decided to man up and take the pain. To my surprise, and my disappointment, it actually felt better once I was out of bed. Even though I can move around, my head feels like it's in a permanent fixed position. Much like a Victorian lady, who is practicing good posture. I swear I could balance a bowl of fruit on my head as I walk around. I will probably feel it tomorrow morning as well, but for now it feels better.

Topic for today, are my weekend activities, which resulted in me watching the Avengers, trying to open a bank account and visiting grand parents.

SMASH!

First off. The new Avengers movie is awesome! As much as I'd like to write a review. I won't go into too much detail. For me it's the best film of the year so far. I had watched all the previous marvel movies, bar the Incredible Hulk. However after watching the Avengers I wish I had. I have never been a big of the Hulk fan, even when I was young. I didn't enjoy the cartoons, I didn't make a big deal out of the tv series. I sort of enjoyed the Ang Lee adaptation apart from the ending. In the Avengers, Hulk managed to steal the show for some reason. There was an underlying flawed character, with a monster inside him was really well done by Joss Whedon. He got alot of laughs, he gave me a few scares, he provided awe inducing destruction. He seemed so damn powerful, to the point my friend said he's OP (overpowered).

Not to give Hulk all the credit, Captain America gave me nerd chills when he stepped up to lead the team. Iron Man still provided a lot of laughs with his quick jabs at other people's expense. Thor and Loki provided some great drama. Black Widow provided nice eye candy, impressive fighting sequences, interesting psychological mind games, and she also provided the catalyst of fear from the Hulk. In terms of story plot, it was at it's most basic level, but considering that this is a team origins movie. I think the story can take a little step back to concerntrate on the characters coming together. The sequel will no doubt happen, after I believe more solo franchises. Iron Man 3, Thor 2, Captain America 2 are already in the works. And you know what I wouldn't mind a new Hulk, or Hawkeye/Black Widow movies too.

So with this new found enthusiasm on the whole comic book super hero genre. I've been looking into the best comics for each of the characters to to catch up on. I've never been into the western comics, as I've really only read the japanese manga comics. So this is new territory of geekdom for me! I have managed to locate Planet Hulk, World War Hulk, Infinity Gauntlet, Annihilation, Captian America Vol 5 1- 33 and the Thanos Imperative for the time being. Looks like studying for me is going to take another step back....

Free Money

Also attempted to open a bank account at Bank of China on Sunday. For those who don't know. Hong Kong is giving HK $6,000.00 to every Hong Kong Citizen.  Everyone that has a Hong Kong ID with 3 stars is eligible. Funny considering the world is in full of debt. Hong Kong seems to have too much money and is giving it away. I suppose this would actually boosts the economy within the country as well. Anyway to collect the money, you need to either fill the forms and collect it in Hong Kong, or you can nominate a Hong Kong bank account and transfer it there. Even though the $6k is probably an equivalent to a free flight to Hong Kong, I decided it would be best to transfer the money over. Especially considering that the money could go towards more furniture. And as I can't say no to free money, a bit of effort to open an account is worth it.

I'm glad the bank is actually open on a Sunday, considering it's pretty non existent in this country. I suspect it's probably due to the demand from the local chinese community, but this also means it's extremely busy. It was pretty much a failed attempt for me, because I didn't have an appointment, not only that I didn't have all of the documentation necessary as I needed proof of address. This was also a cause for concern for my grand mother, who also wanted to open up an account. It's just unfortunately that she doesn't have proof of address, because my grand father's name is on most of the bills, and her bank account is a booklet, so she does not receive any statement via the post. Luckily she does received some annual statement, but she has to wait till May for it.

Grandmother advice

So visiting grandparents and the obvious discussion came up of what happened with my ex. I didn't really talk about it, but her advice was to find a girl not as smart as me. Ahem....  I'm not sure if it was an insult to me, or to my ex. They obviously assume that it was a factor in the relationship.  I mean intelligence does play a factor in choosing a partner for me. Only to the point at the very least that I'm able to converse with them, otherwise I'm pretty open to the level of intelligence. ....Oh grandmother, still in her old ways.

It does put something in perspective though in terms of compatibility. If anything it's insecurity. It's not nice feeling stupid, I was probably quite condescending, or patronising at times to my ex. I'm ashamed of it now, as I did it without realising. Maybe there's a sense of insecurity, or I'm just being an ass hole in feeling superior. I don't know, I mean I'm not even that smart but these are life lessons I suppose. I'll try to be more considerate. I mean if I were to make quick jabs/ quick corrections I'd try to make a joke out of it, or be more playful when saying it, and try not to embarrass them entirely. I have a friend that corrects people all the time and it gets to the point where we tire of it.

Courting back in the days may have been simpler, but now there's more equality. Females are not just trophy wives any more, they have careers and are just as smart. Males also need to be able to groom themselves, look after themselves, be able to cook for themselves. As much as I still like to spoil my girlfriends, I also expect them to be more humble about it, rather than expect to be treated. I'm still a little old fashioned, but I'd like to think I'm the best kind of old fashioned. :p Saying all this, having a sense of humour is still the top in terms of attractiveness for me.

Overall a good weekend from the usual of just staying in playing games and watching tv. Even though I still love those types of weekends.

Admitting Wrong

Time for a more solemn entry for the weekend.

Couples will fight no doubt about that, I've not come across any couple that has never had an arguement with each other, ever. Relationships can be a struggle sometimes, it's how you deal with disagreements, resolving them and moving on that's the challenge.

I for one am not the best person to be giving advice in resolving relationship issues, but having experienced it first hand from an argumentative ex. I've come to realise it's simply to be able to admit wrong that is the toughest test for anyone. Even myself, when I think I am right, I will fight my own corner. However I'd like to believe I can admit wrong, it just can still take time to get there. This is all well and good if the answer has a right and wrong outcome, it's the grey areas that are hard to resolve.

Especially in a relationship when feelings are taken into consideration. My ex would eventually fall on the why are you arguing with me are you trying to make me unhappy? For my ex, there was a sense of obligation that she felt she had from me. I was obliged to never shout at her, I was obliged to forgive her easily, I was obliged to never be mad at her. Yet she was obliged to do all those things to me. Equality in a relationship is important, and yet from me I didn't mind if I did more for her, just as long as she was happy, because that was all I cared about, that she was happy. She used this against me and it worked most of the time, as I would be upset at myself if I cause her to be sad, angry, or disappointment in me.

How do you combat that? It's a no win situation. When someone is competitive, argumentative, always wanting to be right. Are these healthy attributes? ....I can tell you it was a struggle.

She wanted me to literally do anything for her. She had insecurity problems that lies deep. A little spoilt maybe.... it didn't help that I spoilt her too. Yet no matter what I did it was never enough to prove that I loved her..... There were also trust issues. If there was anything I wouldn't do for her, she couldn't accept it. Where is the reason? Where is the equality? ....She drove me crazy.

Relationships are tough, and I believe people can overcome problems, but if someone is unable to compromise or be reasonable, how can they be together. I tried, and maybe it could have worked, if either of us changed. I could have given in all the time, and let her control my life, it would have made her happy, although it wouldn't have made me happy about myself, it would make me happy seeing her happy. You either accept and sacrifice certain criteria and work towards a reasonable solution for both parties to be happy or to end it. We ended it.

Is it just sticking to your principles? Is it being stubborn? Maybe it's selfish? Possibly all, regardless whether it's being right, you have most likely hurt each other at an emotional level and that really you are both right and wrong. The hardest part is admitting you are wrong. However, maybe it would be easier to think that there is a possibility that you are wrong, and that's the first step. And this goes to life in general and not just being in a relationship.

Religious beliefs, work processes, management, politcal systems. If people can stop believing in absolutes, and think in terms of possibilities, it could be a start in being able to get along with each other. Thinking the possibility that there is no god. Thinking that there is  possibility there is a God. Think in terms of their perspective, and the reasons behind it.

Yet, even by doing so, you can't count out generally bad people. Vindictiveness, selfishness, greed, jealousy are other aspects which can not be helped. Sad as it maybe, as long as there are humans and inequality, there will always be conflict. Even love can create bad emotions. For me there will always be a glimmer of hope in human compassion, as long as people are able to talk and understand one another and not just dismiss someones point of view.

Hmmm... I promise a more positive outlook in my next entry about my ex, because I don't want to provide a bad outlook on her. I will describe the fun and great times for being in a relationship, of which I still miss.

Here we go again!

It's been awhile but I think it's time to hit my blog again. Mainly because I find it is very therapeutic to write about myself and just reflect. Also I have some time again now, that being I'm single again, and that work is a bit slow at the moment.
I can say that I've been very busy this past year and a half. So I think I'll slowly write and tell exactly what has happened in my life since then, as well as write about my current thoughts. I’m pretty much the happy go lucky type still, nothing that much has change, in fact, I feel like I’m back where I’ve started but with more experience and a more mature outlook in life. Yet I’m still immature when I can and want to be.

I’m not too sure where to start but maybe will talk a bit about everything for now and then go into more details later. For now I'll start with:

Girl troubles

It’s very hard to say, because I feel it’s like a very complicated issue in why we couldn’t work it out. I suppose I am still not sure exactly what went wrong with our relationship, but I can say that we tried. Even though in her eyes I probably didn’t try hard enough. I tend to agree with her to a degree, yet ultimately it felt that what I did was never truly enough to satisfy her needs, and she has many needs and deserves much better than I could give to her. She rode me hard (literally as well, ahem) which was unnecessary and arguably unreasonable. I was not able to reason with her and I feel that was the ultimate downfall. I was always the one to give in, but whenever I stood my ground we would have the worst possible fights. Should I have to be the one to be constantly be abused? Sigh, I‘ve not put her in a good light already, when in fact she can be the most lovely girl. She has problems and I can look past them, but she is not reasonable.

I suppose more later, details and more personal stories, hopefully a bit more positive.

More recently I went out on Friday night with a few friends because my mate just wanted to, and it was the first time I went out in quite a while for a proper drink session. Met a new girl and she seems quite nice, but I'm not interested. I swear players can easily pick up girls who are looking for a guy. I feel it can be quite easy sometimes, as all you have to do is show a lot of interest and treat them out and give them plenty of attention. Not saying all are like this, but there are plenty that are. I'm not the best looking guy, but when someone has a slight interest in you, you have to grab it by quickly or it'll slip away. I normally always let them slip away. The girl has to impress me as much as I have to impress her.

Of course she could just be very friendly and I’m being deluded, as per my blog, hehe. My friend says it’s all a numbers game, he’ll just print off a ton of business cards and just hand them out to random girls he sees on the street. Which is hilarious, I don't think he'll go through with it but I'd be interested in the results, purely for science. ;) 

First world problems at its finest. In this day and age living in a fast moving city in the age of the internet, it can be a strange time to try and find love. Internet dating seems to be the current trend, but I don't quite like the forced environment, I feel like nothing quite beats actually hooking up with people randomly. The trouble is meeting those specifics to create a random environment for a particular outcome to happen. No matter what, it’s really down to you controlling what you do, if you don’t get yourself out there, then you will not get anything. Go out there and make a fool of yourself in a bar/club, go to many social gatherings, join clubs, etc. It’s down to having fun though, regardless if it’s outside your comfort zone. I hear and see people moaning about being single, but normally it is themselves to blame. Make your own luck.

I’ve liken to a website called Reddit, which I will probably dedicate a blog entry all on its own. In particularly I’d like to point out a sub group, solely for sharing experiences in the art of seduction, or at least tips and experiences in trying to get with the other sex. They refer themselves as Seddit. It’s enlightening and very interesting.  It’s like they have create a new language for themselves when talking about how to woo the other side. The game is always being played, and it’s quite fascinating. Even if it's a bit crude and they're solely in it to get as many as they can. They do tell much truth.

In any case my point of view at the moment, is that I’m not going to make effort for now, I’m quite content with where I am with my life right now, amongst other things to sort out. Women can come later, or it can hit me in the face or not regardless how much older I'll be getting. Love as they say can come at any age.